when you say
"I forgive you, i will never use it to against you in the future,
i will never speak of it again to you or to anyone else"
forgiveness is this:
when you say
when you say
"Sudah bukan waktunya lagi kita belajar membedakan yang BAIK
dan yang TIDAK BAIK.
Saatnya kita tahu membedakan yang BAIK DAN BENAR.
Karena yang BAIK, belum tentu BENAR.
dan kadang-kadang yang BAIK bisa menjadi musuh dari yang BENAR."
Ps. Jeffrey Rachmat
"Live The Life You Can Afford"
Pas
baca quote di atas, gw langsung teringat teman gw. Waktu itu dia cerita
keuangan keluarga dia yang sedang dalam kondisi tidak baik, banyak
hutang dan sebagainya, pokoknya sedang susah kondisi keuangannya, jadi
dia mesti hemat-hemat. Lalu gw dapati dia baru beli polo-shirt dengan
harga di atas 1 juta rupiah. Bukan, bukannya dia bohong kalo keluarga
lagi susah, karena gw tahu pasti memang benar keluarganya lagi susah.
Hal ini tentu membuat gw berpikir, "kok bisa lagi keadaan kaya gitu, dia
malah beli baju dengan harga segitu?" / "kok bisa tetep beli baju mahal
kalo keadaan keuangan keluarga lagi gak baik?"
Hal-hal
seperti di atas, belakangan ini sering kepikiran sama gw. Kenapa?
karena sering gw lihat orang-orang disekitar gw, dengan umur 22-25
tahun, gaji kurang lebih 5 jutaan/bulan, bisa nge-gym, bisa sering makan
di restoran, gadget terbaru, nongkrong, rokok, naik mobil ke mana-mana
(bensinnya), beli branded stuffs, liburan tiap tahun dan sebagainya.
Melihat itu membuat gw berpikir, "can they really afford the lifestyle
they lived?". Maksud gw, udah umur 22 tahun harusnya, mereka sudah tidak
bergantung lagi dengan uang dari orang tua, dengan gaji sebesar itu
dan gaya hidup seperti itu, apakah mereka masih menyisihkan uang untuk
menabung/investasi? Menurut perhitungan gw sih (kalau tidak punya
pekerjaan sampingan), ya bisa memang, tapi sisanya sedikit untuk
menabung/investasi. Lalu kalau ada hal-hal tak terduga, biayanya gimana?
atau
contoh lain yang ditulis @mrshananto, pembantu dia, gajinya 20
ribu/hari, bisa kasi uang jajan ke anaknya 10 ribu/hari, dengan alasan,
nanti anaknya nangis.
contoh
lain lagi dari @mrshananto, ada seorang ibu, punya anak 2: SD dan TK,
bisa liburan 2x setahun ke luar negeri, dan sekarang ingin beli mobil
baru. Gaji dia perbulan memang besar, tapi gak sebanding dengan
pengeluarannya. Ketika ditanya punya tabungan berapa? ada 5 juta + 40
juta deposito.
"Sweetie…dengan
lo mencairkan deposito pun, utang kartu kredit lo belum ketutup lho!
Terus bayar TK nya si adik tahun depan dari mana? KTA belum lunas. Terus
beli mobil mau bayar pake apa?”
"...."
"how long has this been going on? 2 years?”
“More… 9 years Win… "
“You cannot afford this!”
***
My
point is, let us be honest to ourself, did we live the life we can
afford? apakah benar gw mampu untuk punya gadget terbaru? apakah gw
mampu untuk rokok 1 bungkus/hari? apakah gw mampu untuk beli tas ini?
apakah gw mampu untuk beli 1 baju/perbulan demi kebutuhan penampilan?
apakah gw mampu untuk gym di sini? apakah gw mampu untuk 1 gelas kopi di
Starbucks setiap hari? apakah gw mampu untuk lifestyle seperti ini?
apakah dengan gaya hidup seperti ini terus gw masi bisa nabung untuk
investasi masa depan? Jangan-jangan gara-gara gengsi atau terbiasa hidup
enak sebelumnya lalu kita lupa hal ini.
Let us be honest to our self, can we really afford the life we lived now? #selfreminder Think twice before spending.
One day, if you die, what do you want others remember about you? If you ask me, I'll say, I want to die if I have accomplished my purpose here in this life, I don't care when it will come, It can be 5 years from now, It can be 20 years later, as long as I have accomplished what God wants me to do, I am ready.
Most people rush in life, not gaining much and leaving no marks. Life is short and the world goes on without you, even when you're gone. However, you have a mission in life; what is most important is that you choose to find out and move towards the answers.
For me, the bucket list is tons of random things I want to do in my life, even the most naive things. I believe everyone has this list in their head, write them, so you know where you are now and what you have to do. So here is what I want to do during my only precious life (some of them are accomplished):
1. Have my picture/my story published in newspaper
2. Eat snow
3. Go to America
4. Sit under the cherry blossom in Japan
5. Say "I love you" to Dad
6. Own a property
7. Kiss my lifetime partner on new year's eve in Sydney
8. Have a library at home
9. Go to Gili Trawangan
10. Have a longlife friendship
11. Own a Mini Cooper
12. Ride halilintar at Dufan
13. Save a life
14. Be guest on TV show
15. Be on the top of Mahameru
16. Learn to swim
17. Have a pixie hairstyle
18. Go to Japan
19. Go on helicopter ride
20. Be a volunteer to outside Java
21. Shake hands with president
22. Do a bungee jumping (seriously ness? err..yes)
23. Participate a running race
24. Make a time capsule with best friends
25. Stay in an igloo
26. Donate something to needy kids
27. See an eclipse
28. Win a quiz
29. Speak in front of 10.000 people
30. Attend my sunday school student's wedding
31. Go on spontaneous trip
32. Own a boutique
33. Have a blog with millon readers
34. Give a CPR to someone and it worked
35. Play giutar
36. Be on 43kg
38. Read the whole bible
39. Learn pole dancing
40. Fire a gun
41. Get drunk
42. Die with big smile on my face
43. Visit a castle
44. Have a meaningful conversation with stranger
45. Eat alone in a fancy restaurant
46. Buy a diamond for myself
47. Own a garden
48. Go on Hot Air Balloon in Cappadocia
49. Sew something wearable
50. Go on a cruise
51. Always think before speak
52. Walk my talk
53. Blood donors
54. Find something that I never give up on
55. Get hypnotized
56. Inspire people
57. Spend a whole day by myself
58. Own a worldwide company
59. Sail a yatch
60. Drive a bus/truck
61. Dance in the rain
62. Eat McD/KFC chicken without guilty feeling
63. Wake up peacefully at 6AM in the morning
64. Fast for a month
65. Go on a trip alone
66. Wear bikini confidently :p
67. Donate an organ when I die
68. Make a business with sister or brothers
69. Be a wife
70. Receive a fan letter
71. Have a family picnic
72. Go on a mission trip
73. Visit Prague
74. Visit Santorini
75. Visit Disneyland
76. Try monkey brain cake/dessert
77. Be a survivor
78. Passionately kiss in the rain
79. Have sex in our own backyard
80. Go on a budget traveling with lifetime partner
81. Have a pair of Louboutin shoes
82. Have a Chanel bag
83. Solo traveling
84. Hear God's voice
85. Sleep under the stars
86. Teach something in a rural place
87. Bring my family to Europe
88. Live a faithfulness life till the end
89. Attend the independence ceremony at Istana Negara
90. Plant a tree
91. Delete my Facebook account
92. Be the cover of magazine
93. Hug a dog
94. Be at Shangri-La Hotel at Paris
95. Pick a fruit from the tree and make something
96. Lead someone to Christ
97. Do archery
98. Ride a horse well
99. Be the audience of The Oprah Winfrey Show
100. Meet Daniel Henney
101. Look 5 years younger than my real age
102. Try a make up class
103. Go to movies all by myself
104. Be a vegetarian
105. Be a great mom
Most people rush in life, not gaining much and leaving no marks. Life is short and the world goes on without you, even when you're gone. However, you have a mission in life; what is most important is that you choose to find out and move towards the answers.
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| Oxford Dictionary |
1. Have my picture/my story published in newspaper
2. Eat snow
3. Go to America
4. Sit under the cherry blossom in Japan
5. Say "I love you" to Dad
6. Own a property
7. Kiss my lifetime partner on new year's eve in Sydney
8. Have a library at home
9. Go to Gili Trawangan
10. Have a longlife friendship
11. Own a Mini Cooper
12. Ride halilintar at Dufan
13. Save a life
14. Be guest on TV show
15. Be on the top of Mahameru
16. Learn to swim
17. Have a pixie hairstyle
18. Go to Japan
19. Go on helicopter ride
20. Be a volunteer to outside Java
21. Shake hands with president
22. Do a bungee jumping (seriously ness? err..yes)
23. Participate a running race
24. Make a time capsule with best friends
25. Stay in an igloo
26. Donate something to needy kids
27. See an eclipse
28. Win a quiz
29. Speak in front of 10.000 people
30. Attend my sunday school student's wedding
31. Go on spontaneous trip
32. Own a boutique
33. Have a blog with millon readers
34. Give a CPR to someone and it worked
35. Play giutar
36. Be on 43kg
38. Read the whole bible
39. Learn pole dancing
40. Fire a gun
41. Get drunk
42. Die with big smile on my face
43. Visit a castle
44. Have a meaningful conversation with stranger
45. Eat alone in a fancy restaurant
46. Buy a diamond for myself
47. Own a garden
48. Go on Hot Air Balloon in Cappadocia
49. Sew something wearable
50. Go on a cruise
51. Always think before speak
52. Walk my talk
53. Blood donors
54. Find something that I never give up on
55. Get hypnotized
56. Inspire people
57. Spend a whole day by myself
58. Own a worldwide company
59. Sail a yatch
60. Drive a bus/truck
61. Dance in the rain
62. Eat McD/KFC chicken without guilty feeling
63. Wake up peacefully at 6AM in the morning
64. Fast for a month
65. Go on a trip alone
66. Wear bikini confidently :p
67. Donate an organ when I die
68. Make a business with sister or brothers
69. Be a wife
70. Receive a fan letter
71. Have a family picnic
72. Go on a mission trip
73. Visit Prague
74. Visit Santorini
75. Visit Disneyland
76. Try monkey brain cake/dessert
77. Be a survivor
78. Passionately kiss in the rain
79. Have sex in our own backyard
80. Go on a budget traveling with lifetime partner
81. Have a pair of Louboutin shoes
82. Have a Chanel bag
83. Solo traveling
84. Hear God's voice
85. Sleep under the stars
86. Teach something in a rural place
87. Bring my family to Europe
88. Live a faithfulness life till the end
89. Attend the independence ceremony at Istana Negara
90. Plant a tree
91. Delete my Facebook account
92. Be the cover of magazine
93. Hug a dog
94. Be at Shangri-La Hotel at Paris
95. Pick a fruit from the tree and make something
96. Lead someone to Christ
97. Do archery
98. Ride a horse well
99. Be the audience of The Oprah Winfrey Show
100. Meet Daniel Henney
101. Look 5 years younger than my real age
102. Try a make up class
103. Go to movies all by myself
104. Be a vegetarian
105. Be a great mom
got this story from my friend's facebook, i wanna share this very good story:
Story : "Difference in Love and Marriage"
A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders... may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person..."
"What is marriage then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, "This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get... This is marriage."
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| from www.josevillaphoto.com |
A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders... may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person..."
"What is marriage then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick." The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, "This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get... This is marriage."
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